beyondlaughingskies:

been messin around on photoshop
is it weird that I kinda dig myself as a blonde?

um so yeah I think I might actually do this? maybe not immediately but probably around next fall
it will give my mother a heart attack but I’m really into it so
(just gotta find a stylist who can do it bc I don’t trust myself AT ALL)

beyondlaughingskies:

been messin around on photoshop

is it weird that I kinda dig myself as a blonde?

um so yeah I think I might actually do this? maybe not immediately but probably around next fall

it will give my mother a heart attack but I’m really into it so

(just gotta find a stylist who can do it bc I don’t trust myself AT ALL)

3 hours ago  April 16 2014 12:01am    6 NOTES    via   source    reblog
FILED UNDER: #hair  #blonde 
inlovewithmyipod:

lierdumoa:

nugget-basket:

the-unpopular-opinions:

The Opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never get’s cat called
In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I  am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.
When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man. 
Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:
Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guys house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.
These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this? 
I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT” 
This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him. 
Misogyny affects  all women negatively. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT

As a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look — I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called “positive” attention really is.

Plus, as a society that women get harassed and cat called and all various other forms of irritation, girls that don’t get that start to wonder what’s wrong with them. Not that you even want to be hit on inappropriately or harassed on the street but when you just get overlooked by 99% of the male population for the people you hang out with, you start to wonder why they get hit on in front of you and you’re always left alone. I consider myself lucky now to have gone so long without the harassment but for a long time I really wondered if I just wasn’t pretty enough for any guy because all my friends always complained about having to turn guys down and attempt to not get hit on and no guy ever did that to me.

inlovewithmyipod:

lierdumoa:

nugget-basket:

the-unpopular-opinions:

The Opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never get’s cat called

In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I  am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.

When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man. 

Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:

  • Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
  • I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
  • One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
  • I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
  • Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
  • I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guys house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
  • Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.

These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this? 

I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT” 

This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him. 

Misogyny affects  all women negatively. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT

As a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look — I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called “positive” attention really is.

Plus, as a society that women get harassed and cat called and all various other forms of irritation, girls that don’t get that start to wonder what’s wrong with them. Not that you even want to be hit on inappropriately or harassed on the street but when you just get overlooked by 99% of the male population for the people you hang out with, you start to wonder why they get hit on in front of you and you’re always left alone. I consider myself lucky now to have gone so long without the harassment but for a long time I really wondered if I just wasn’t pretty enough for any guy because all my friends always complained about having to turn guys down and attempt to not get hit on and no guy ever did that to me.

5 hours ago  April 15 2014 10:00pm    45331 NOTES    via   source    reblog

Wash Post: India now recognizes transgender citizens as ‘third gender’

queergirlquestions:

India now recognizes transgender citizens as ‘third gender’

"India’s Supreme Court on Tuesday created a “third gender” status for transgender people, granting the group formal recognition for the first time. “Recognition of transgenders as a third gender is not a social or medical issue but a human rights issue,” Justice K.S. Radhakrishnan said when he announced the ruling. “Transgenders are citizens of this country and are entitled to education and all other rights.”

He directed local governmental bureaucracies to identify transgender people as a neutral third gender, adding that they will now have the same access to social welfare programs as other minority groups in India, the world’s largest democracy and currently in the midst an election campaign.” Read More from the Washington Post 

6 hours ago  April 15 2014 9:26pm    22 NOTES    via   source    reblog
been messin around on photoshop
is it weird that I kinda dig myself as a blonde?

been messin around on photoshop

is it weird that I kinda dig myself as a blonde?

6 hours ago  April 15 2014 9:23pm    6 NOTES    reblog

trekual-innuendos:

Let’s have a dystopian future movie where none of the actors are white

Not a single one

No reason

No explanation

There’s just no white people and not a single character questions it

Watch how quickly people notice and get pissed off

7 hours ago  April 15 2014 7:57pm    92709 NOTES    via   source    reblog

someonelikehugh:

Mary Poppins Songs ~ Chim Chim Cher-ee 

"Now as the ladder of life has been strung, you might think a sweep’s on the bottommost rung. Though I spends me time in the ashes and smoke, in this whole wide world ain’t no happier bloke."

8 hours ago  April 15 2014 6:54pm    584 NOTES    via   source    reblog
FILED UNDER: #mary poppins  #bert 
cartoon-fanatics:

Beautifully illustrated It’s A Small World Gifhttp://cartoon-fanatics.tumblr.com/

cartoon-fanatics:

Beautifully illustrated It’s A Small World Gif
http://cartoon-fanatics.tumblr.com/

9 hours ago  April 15 2014 6:14pm    115 NOTES    via   source    reblog
amazing

amazing

11 hours ago  April 15 2014 4:14pm       reblog

I feel like Billy Joel is a douche tbh

11 hours ago  April 15 2014 3:53pm       reblog

mama-panther:

[cries but also keeps eyeliner intact]

11 hours ago  April 15 2014 3:49pm    81802 NOTES    via   source    reblog
FILED UNDER: #yessssss  #master skills tbh 

heckyeahdisneymerch:

More ears from In Cindy’s Closet!

I need both of these immediately

11 hours ago  April 15 2014 3:49pm    69 NOTES    via   source    reblog

tsunflowers:

bye they’re so cute. this is so cute

1 day ago  April 14 2014 11:11pm    13512 NOTES    via   source    reblog
FILED UNDER: #2 cute 

casualblessings:

may you pick up your tea when it’s exactly the right temperature, and may you happen to glance out the window when the light is just how you like it.

1 day ago  April 14 2014 11:10pm    37403 NOTES    via   source    reblog
FILED UNDER: #YES  #always 

jsscvlnt replied to your photo “im sorry but WHO would spend $6 on ONE roll of hipster toilet…”

i would maybe just buy it to keep it in my room and look at it from time to time

I mean that definitely makes some amount of sense to me more than buying it to just wipe ur butt does

1 day ago  April 14 2014 11:10pm       reblog
FILED UNDER: #jsscvlnt 
im sorry but WHO would spend $6 on ONE roll of hipster toilet paper???????????????? LIKE YOURE LITERALLY WIPING YOUR ASS WITH IT IDGI

im sorry but WHO would spend $6 on ONE roll of hipster toilet paper???????????????? LIKE YOURE LITERALLY WIPING YOUR ASS WITH IT IDGI

1 day ago  April 14 2014 9:59pm    1 NOTES    reblog